He just doesn’t get me!

Tim (my husband) is a lovely guy.

He does all these nice little gestures for me.

Gestures that completely miss the mark.

One that I noticed the other day was he likes to take my towel off the rail and hang it over the screen while I’m showering.

I know he likes to have his towel hanging there when he’s in the shower so he can grab it and get dry without opening the door and letting in the cold air.

I, on the other hand, find it gross. All the time I’m showering, I feel like my towel is getting damp and when I pull it in over the screen edge, I envisage all the dust and stuff that might sit up there being dragged all through my towel. Ew!

But I know he does it out of love for me, so I just say “thank you”.

When he did this the other day, I was smiling bemusedly to myself about how he just had no idea what I wanted. He went on ignorantly doing these things, day after day, thinking he was showing love to me. If only he knew that he just didn’t get me.

Then all of a sudden, it hit me. (Not my damp dusty towel, a realisation!)

In all the time Tim had been doing this, I had been focused on how he didn’t get me. How he kept doing something I didn’t want.

Never once in all that time had I thought to hang his towel over the screen without him asking me to. I just didn’t get him. Despite him showing me over and over again what he would like, I completely missed it. Too focused on myself to see that there were two people playing this game, and at least one of us was trying to do something nice for the other.

My commitment from now is when I feel like he just doesn’t get me, to focus on picking up on what he’s doing and start giving him the things that he wants.

Two can play at that game!

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