I recently read a very liberating book. Allen Carr’s EASYWAY To Stop Smoking. And it helped me kick a lifetime habit – nail biting. Might seem like nothing to you, but nothing else I’ve tried has stopped me. This finally did it, and I became a non-biter. His Bio reads: Allen Carr (1934-2006) was a chain-smokerContinue reading “The End of Addiction”
Category Archives: For Men
Mic-drop moments for Men
Above all, men want to make women happy. Sometimes the methods they use don’t communicate to women, but here are two that really get through: Mic-drop #1 I (Camilla) am forever beating myself up about things that I’ve said or done. My core wound desire to be impressive and portray the right image always hasContinue reading “Mic-drop moments for Men”
Why can’t we take turns listening?
When we work with couples, we encourage the man to listen to his wife pour out her heart as often as she is willing to, without engaging in rebuttal or self-justification when she says things that feel unfair. Instead, we encourage him to validate her feelings. But this process only goes one way, we don’tContinue reading “Why can’t we take turns listening?”
Relationships 101 with Job and his Wife
Ever thought about the book of Job as a relationship guide? The idea of blame runs hot in this book. Whose fault is it that Job and his family have been made to suffer? That’s a familiar theme in relationships, surely? Tim and I would constantly argue about whose fault it was that things wereContinue reading “Relationships 101 with Job and his Wife”
Sexual Feedback For The Faint-Hearted
I always wished that Tim would be more passionate in the bedroom. For many many years our inability to give and receive sexual feedback drastically hindered the passion in our sexual intimacy. As we’ve shared before, during our early sexual encounters my way of giving feedback was too blunt for Tim and as my resentmentContinue reading “Sexual Feedback For The Faint-Hearted”
Awesome Masculine State One-liners
We were briefly home between church and Adventurers (kids club) stuffing food in before the next round began. Me to Tim: “We have to make sure we ask the teachers what honours the girls need to catch up on to get invested next month”. Tim: “Actually, I was thinking I’d stay home.” Me: (Is visuallyContinue reading “Awesome Masculine State One-liners”
Overcoming the Two Sources of Conflict in Relationships
This morning I initiated love-making with Tim. It was quick and easy for both of us, which was lovely. He said to me afterwards, as he often does, “I love you”. Sweet, right? Not to me! I reluctantly said “I love you, too”, but in my head I’m like, “Whatever, I know. But HOW WASContinue reading “Overcoming the Two Sources of Conflict in Relationships”
Rebuilding our Relationship: The Playlist
What’s “your song” for the two of you? Music has great power in influencing our emotional state. Emotional state is so important to relationships. It can change something that would normally cause a massive tiff, into just a passing glance. Here are some of the songs we’ve used to help make our relationship great. SomeContinue reading “Rebuilding our Relationship: The Playlist”
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