Tim says to me the other day “I think I’m struggling a bit…emotionally.” Man, you know it’s bad when a guy says something like that. It caught me a little off-guard and I didn’t know quite what to make of it, so I kinda just said, “Oh, ok. That’s no good honey”. Later, I startedContinue reading “What to do when your man is struggling”
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What to do When He says ‘No’.
“So, honey, how many square metres do you think our block is?” I began. Tim turned around and saw the building contract spread out in front of me. “NO!” he exclaimed emphatically, “I’m not doing that now!” “I’m doing my thing.” The building contract. We’re so close. He knows. He even told me he wasContinue reading “What to do When He says ‘No’.”
Sex Goals
When we got married, we were each the only sexual parter either of us had experienced (still are). We had high hopes for our sexual experiences together. Unfortunately these hopes died within the first few days of our honeymoon and were left dormant for many years while we floundered around in our marriage. (If you’veContinue reading “Sex Goals”
You’re not gonna like this…
“You’re not gonna like this…”, Tim began bravely, “but I think it might be a good idea.” We were discussing the likelihood of getting our extension started this side of next year. A touchy topic on its own, and anyone starting out with “You’re not gonna like this” was likely to be shut down, hard.Continue reading “You’re not gonna like this…”
How do you move a tyrant?
How do you move a tyrant? How do you bring a dead man to life? I have asked myself these questions concerning my husband. Some people tell me that they’re too extreme. But as a wife, have you really never felt like it was impossible to influence your husband? That he was so set inContinue reading “How do you move a tyrant?”
Relationships 101 with Job and his Wife
Ever thought about the book of Job as a relationship guide? The idea of blame runs hot in this book. Whose fault is it that Job and his family have been made to suffer? That’s a familiar theme in relationships, surely? Tim and I would constantly argue about whose fault it was that things wereContinue reading “Relationships 101 with Job and his Wife”
Sexual Feedback For The Faint-Hearted
I always wished that Tim would be more passionate in the bedroom. For many many years our inability to give and receive sexual feedback drastically hindered the passion in our sexual intimacy. As we’ve shared before, during our early sexual encounters my way of giving feedback was too blunt for Tim and as my resentmentContinue reading “Sexual Feedback For The Faint-Hearted”
Overcoming the Two Sources of Conflict in Relationships
This morning I initiated love-making with Tim. It was quick and easy for both of us, which was lovely. He said to me afterwards, as he often does, “I love you”. Sweet, right? Not to me! I reluctantly said “I love you, too”, but in my head I’m like, “Whatever, I know. But HOW WASContinue reading “Overcoming the Two Sources of Conflict in Relationships”
What kind of fool?
I’ve always prided myself on being smart. One step ahead of the game. I see what’s coming, nothing surprises me. I understand how it all works. Usefully, I applied this tool to my marriage. I knew all about my husband. He was a kind, caring, sensitive guy, who saw my heart. I loved that aboutContinue reading “What kind of fool?”
3 Communication shifts women can make for a better relationship
Often when we feel like there is a problem with communication in our relationship, we focus on what the other person needs to change. But since you can’t control another person, we are usually disappointed. So let’s focus on what you can control. Here are three simple ways women can communicate to get a betterContinue reading “3 Communication shifts women can make for a better relationship”
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