Two questions I was asked by two sincere, honestly searching mums really got me thinking. “How long would it take to fix my relationship?” asked a recently-separated mum of small children, honestly trying to evaluate whether or not the war she knew would ensue if she tried would be profitable and worth the further sacrificeContinue reading “How long would it take to fix my relationship?”
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What to do When He says ‘No’.
“So, honey, how many square metres do you think our block is?” I began. Tim turned around and saw the building contract spread out in front of me. “NO!” he exclaimed emphatically, “I’m not doing that now!” “I’m doing my thing.” The building contract. We’re so close. He knows. He even told me he wasContinue reading “What to do When He says ‘No’.”
You’re not gonna like this…
“You’re not gonna like this…”, Tim began bravely, “but I think it might be a good idea.” We were discussing the likelihood of getting our extension started this side of next year. A touchy topic on its own, and anyone starting out with “You’re not gonna like this” was likely to be shut down, hard.Continue reading “You’re not gonna like this…”
How do you move a tyrant?
How do you move a tyrant? How do you bring a dead man to life? I have asked myself these questions concerning my husband. Some people tell me that they’re too extreme. But as a wife, have you really never felt like it was impossible to influence your husband? That he was so set inContinue reading “How do you move a tyrant?”
I need ACTION, not talk!
In 2013 I had been married 8 years. I had a carpenter husband, but was living in a one-bedroom apartment that he would not extend. He wasn’t very interested in sex, it didn’t matter what I did, or how often I asked him what he liked, he could tell me nothing. He stopped kissing me.Continue reading “I need ACTION, not talk!”
The Right Sacrifice
What if our relationships are failing, not through lack of love or effort on either part, but because of our failure to make the right sacrifice?
“Shut-up!” And other heart-felt phrases.
I had to get the kids home in time for dinner. Well, in time to make dinner. But they had their music lessons, so I did the shopping for some food we needed while I waited. I arrived about the time they were usually finishing up. One girl was still going. No problem. I satContinue reading ““Shut-up!” And other heart-felt phrases.”
Awesome Masculine State One-liners
We were briefly home between church and Adventurers (kids club) stuffing food in before the next round began. Me to Tim: “We have to make sure we ask the teachers what honours the girls need to catch up on to get invested next month”. Tim: “Actually, I was thinking I’d stay home.” Me: (Is visuallyContinue reading “Awesome Masculine State One-liners”
Overcoming the Two Sources of Conflict in Relationships
This morning I initiated love-making with Tim. It was quick and easy for both of us, which was lovely. He said to me afterwards, as he often does, “I love you”. Sweet, right? Not to me! I reluctantly said “I love you, too”, but in my head I’m like, “Whatever, I know. But HOW WASContinue reading “Overcoming the Two Sources of Conflict in Relationships”
What kind of fool?
I’ve always prided myself on being smart. One step ahead of the game. I see what’s coming, nothing surprises me. I understand how it all works. Usefully, I applied this tool to my marriage. I knew all about my husband. He was a kind, caring, sensitive guy, who saw my heart. I loved that aboutContinue reading “What kind of fool?”
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