When we work with couples, we encourage the man to listen to his wife pour out her heart as often as she is willing to, without engaging in rebuttal or self-justification when she says things that feel unfair. Instead, we encourage him to validate her feelings. But this process only goes one way, we don’tContinue reading “Why can’t we take turns listening?”
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The Right Sacrifice
What if our relationships are failing, not through lack of love or effort on either part, but because of our failure to make the right sacrifice?
“Shut-up!” And other heart-felt phrases.
I had to get the kids home in time for dinner. Well, in time to make dinner. But they had their music lessons, so I did the shopping for some food we needed while I waited. I arrived about the time they were usually finishing up. One girl was still going. No problem. I satContinue reading ““Shut-up!” And other heart-felt phrases.”
Sexual Feedback For The Faint-Hearted
I always wished that Tim would be more passionate in the bedroom. For many many years our inability to give and receive sexual feedback drastically hindered the passion in our sexual intimacy. As we’ve shared before, during our early sexual encounters my way of giving feedback was too blunt for Tim and as my resentmentContinue reading “Sexual Feedback For The Faint-Hearted”
Awesome Masculine State One-liners
We were briefly home between church and Adventurers (kids club) stuffing food in before the next round began. Me to Tim: “We have to make sure we ask the teachers what honours the girls need to catch up on to get invested next month”. Tim: “Actually, I was thinking I’d stay home.” Me: (Is visuallyContinue reading “Awesome Masculine State One-liners”
Overcoming the Two Sources of Conflict in Relationships
This morning I initiated love-making with Tim. It was quick and easy for both of us, which was lovely. He said to me afterwards, as he often does, “I love you”. Sweet, right? Not to me! I reluctantly said “I love you, too”, but in my head I’m like, “Whatever, I know. But HOW WASContinue reading “Overcoming the Two Sources of Conflict in Relationships”
What kind of fool?
I’ve always prided myself on being smart. One step ahead of the game. I see what’s coming, nothing surprises me. I understand how it all works. Usefully, I applied this tool to my marriage. I knew all about my husband. He was a kind, caring, sensitive guy, who saw my heart. I loved that aboutContinue reading “What kind of fool?”
The Beauty of God in Woman
What is the most frightening thing a woman faces? Sharing her heart with her husband. Her whole heart. Why? Because of the very real risk that he will find her ridiculous. She does not want to give her heart to someone who’s going to laugh at it, ignore it, reject it. In many ways, sheContinue reading “The Beauty of God in Woman”
He Did Nothing
We had COVID the last two weeks. So, no sex for two weeks. And plenty of bickering. But, wait a minute, why no sex? Well…maybe because we were sick? Not really very sick. We made love again the other night and I made myself say what was in my heart – how much I’d missedContinue reading “He Did Nothing”
2 Mistakes Couples Make (that cause them to fall out of love)
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