Tim says to me the other day “I think I’m struggling a bit…emotionally.” Man, you know it’s bad when a guy says something like that. It caught me a little off-guard and I didn’t know quite what to make of it, so I kinda just said, “Oh, ok. That’s no good honey”. Later, I startedContinue reading “What to do when your man is struggling”
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How long would it take to fix my relationship?
Two questions I was asked by two sincere, honestly searching mums really got me thinking. “How long would it take to fix my relationship?” asked a recently-separated mum of small children, honestly trying to evaluate whether or not the war she knew would ensue if she tried would be profitable and worth the further sacrificeContinue reading “How long would it take to fix my relationship?”
What Plane Crashes Reveal About Divorce
In the year 2000, Korean Air took the first steps towards moving from a flight loss rate seventeen times higher than most other airlines, to being presented the Phoenix Award by Air Transport World, in recognition of its transformation to a 5-year spotless record in 2006. They did it with no changes to flight safetyContinue reading “What Plane Crashes Reveal About Divorce”
What to do When He says ‘No’.
“So, honey, how many square metres do you think our block is?” I began. Tim turned around and saw the building contract spread out in front of me. “NO!” he exclaimed emphatically, “I’m not doing that now!” “I’m doing my thing.” The building contract. We’re so close. He knows. He even told me he wasContinue reading “What to do When He says ‘No’.”
Sex Goals
When we got married, we were each the only sexual parter either of us had experienced (still are). We had high hopes for our sexual experiences together. Unfortunately these hopes died within the first few days of our honeymoon and were left dormant for many years while we floundered around in our marriage. (If you’veContinue reading “Sex Goals”
You’re not gonna like this…
“You’re not gonna like this…”, Tim began bravely, “but I think it might be a good idea.” We were discussing the likelihood of getting our extension started this side of next year. A touchy topic on its own, and anyone starting out with “You’re not gonna like this” was likely to be shut down, hard.Continue reading “You’re not gonna like this…”
How do you move a tyrant?
How do you move a tyrant? How do you bring a dead man to life? I have asked myself these questions concerning my husband. Some people tell me that they’re too extreme. But as a wife, have you really never felt like it was impossible to influence your husband? That he was so set inContinue reading “How do you move a tyrant?”
Mic-drop moments for Men
Above all, men want to make women happy. Sometimes the methods they use don’t communicate to women, but here are two that really get through: Mic-drop #1 I (Camilla) am forever beating myself up about things that I’ve said or done. My core wound desire to be impressive and portray the right image always hasContinue reading “Mic-drop moments for Men”
I need ACTION, not talk!
In 2013 I had been married 8 years. I had a carpenter husband, but was living in a one-bedroom apartment that he would not extend. He wasn’t very interested in sex, it didn’t matter what I did, or how often I asked him what he liked, he could tell me nothing. He stopped kissing me.Continue reading “I need ACTION, not talk!”
Why can’t we take turns listening?
When we work with couples, we encourage the man to listen to his wife pour out her heart as often as she is willing to, without engaging in rebuttal or self-justification when she says things that feel unfair. Instead, we encourage him to validate her feelings. But this process only goes one way, we don’tContinue reading “Why can’t we take turns listening?”
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