Above all, men want to make women happy. Sometimes the methods they use don’t communicate to women, but here are two that really get through: Mic-drop #1 I (Camilla) am forever beating myself up about things that I’ve said or done. My core wound desire to be impressive and portray the right image always hasContinue reading “Mic-drop moments for Men”
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I need ACTION, not talk!
In 2013 I had been married 8 years. I had a carpenter husband, but was living in a one-bedroom apartment that he would not extend. He wasn’t very interested in sex, it didn’t matter what I did, or how often I asked him what he liked, he could tell me nothing. He stopped kissing me.Continue reading “I need ACTION, not talk!”
Why can’t we take turns listening?
When we work with couples, we encourage the man to listen to his wife pour out her heart as often as she is willing to, without engaging in rebuttal or self-justification when she says things that feel unfair. Instead, we encourage him to validate her feelings. But this process only goes one way, we don’tContinue reading “Why can’t we take turns listening?”
The Right Sacrifice
What if our relationships are failing, not through lack of love or effort on either part, but because of our failure to make the right sacrifice?
“Shut-up!” And other heart-felt phrases.
I had to get the kids home in time for dinner. Well, in time to make dinner. But they had their music lessons, so I did the shopping for some food we needed while I waited. I arrived about the time they were usually finishing up. One girl was still going. No problem. I satContinue reading ““Shut-up!” And other heart-felt phrases.”
Everything that’s wrong with your relationship
Tim gets a lot of flack from me about being messy. It’s one of our “big things” or recurring arguments. I’ve often been embarrassed to have people over at our house. We’ve made significant progress on it, in some general areas, and the rest we’ve restricted to our bedroom, or other places out of sightContinue reading “Everything that’s wrong with your relationship”
Everybody, get your hands in the air!
I’m reading a book by an FBI hostage negotiator. It came in handy the other day, I had to negotiate with the terrorists who are in charge of my children’s swimming lesson time slots. Anytime one of the kids moves up, it’s a herculean effort to get them into a class on the same dayContinue reading “Everybody, get your hands in the air!”
Relationships 101 with Job and his Wife
Ever thought about the book of Job as a relationship guide? The idea of blame runs hot in this book. Whose fault is it that Job and his family have been made to suffer? That’s a familiar theme in relationships, surely? Tim and I would constantly argue about whose fault it was that things wereContinue reading “Relationships 101 with Job and his Wife”
Into the Wild
What do we mean by “Grow a Wild Love”? Well, it’s like when you’ve taken a trip out into wild nature. It takes effort to get there, if you want to experience the amazing sights that nature has to offer, you’ve got to walk far, you have to let go of control, you have toContinue reading “Into the Wild”
Sexual Feedback For The Faint-Hearted
I always wished that Tim would be more passionate in the bedroom. For many many years our inability to give and receive sexual feedback drastically hindered the passion in our sexual intimacy. As we’ve shared before, during our early sexual encounters my way of giving feedback was too blunt for Tim and as my resentmentContinue reading “Sexual Feedback For The Faint-Hearted”
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